you will find the beginning of a list of books that I am in the process of preparing that
may be helpful to you. The list will include books from several sources,
including books that I have read that I recommend, books that some of my
patients have read that have helpful to them, books that other psychologists
have found helpful for their patients and book recommended by the American
Psychological Association to address common personal and psychological issues.
Some of these books are recognizably of a psychologically educational
nature or of the "self-help" genre. It is important to recognize two
things when reading these books. The first is to remember that just because
something is in print does not make it true. Even the best of these books
contain both excellent, helpful information and other material that may be
irrelevant, not useful or misleading. No psychologist has all the answers and no
psychological theory or approach is all encompassing. That's why there is
continuing research and revision of psychological theory and methods of
The second thing to remember is that a given psychological
approach may be extremely useful and helpful to one person, but not to another.
People are psychological extremely complex, and these books face the
overwhelming task of distilling general psychological principles down into an
organized and concrete method that will be useful to everyone. Because every
person is different there is no book that has ever been written about you
or any other single individual. Therefore you must exercise your own good
judgment in determining what really fits for you and is useful to you. That is
the advantage of being in psychotherapy. Your psychologist can pay attention to
who you are and adapt his approach and advice to your own individual needs,
rather than being limited to a shotgun approach of providing generalities.
Finally, do not make the assumption that a brilliant psychologist who has
authored an excellent book is right about everything. That is never the
Some of the books are novels that capture an important psychological theme that
offers insight into universal human issues. The quality and vicissitudes of
human emotion, relationships, conflicts, fears and anxieties is sometimes
captured far more effectively by an author in a novel that by a psychologist in
a reference book. It has been my experience that when people are able to
recognize parts of themselves in novels that the insight provided can help them
make positive changes. If you see a novel listed below that touches about a
theme of personal relevance or importance to you, it may be equally or more
useful to you than a "self-help" book.
These references are in the process of preparation.
I will be adding to the list you see below.
Some of these references can be found at
retail book stores such as Barnes and Noble and Borders
Books. They are all available at Amazon. com. You may click on the
title of any book listed below to get to the Amazon.com site for further information about the book, to see related
books, or to order a book now. Some of the book descriptions below are from the
Amazon.com site. If Dr. Beitner has added a personal commentary on the book,
it is underlined and labeled as such.
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In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead
by Sheryl Sanberg, CEO facebook
Dr. Beitner's comments: This book addresses issues that apply not only
to women, but to men as well. As successful as she has been, she identifies
self-defeating characteristics that she continues to struggle with in her
career. We all carry with us feelings of doubt and inferiority based upon the
trials and tribulations of childhood. These deep seated psychological
characteristics can continue to limit us both in our career and personal life.
Sheryl provides amusing, poignant and instructive examples personal interactions
that can be helpful in overcoming some of the self-limiting behavior that we may
unwittingly inflict upon ourselves.
My Grandfather's Blessings, Stories of Strength, Refuge, and Belonging. by
Rachel Naomi Remen, M.D.
Dr. Beitner's comments: This female physician encountered a sudden,
unexpected, serious illness which inspired a powerful wide-ranging method of
dealing with a wide range of life and health problems.
Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life
Seligman, a renowned psychologist and clinical researcher, has been studying
optimists and pessimists for 25 years. Pessimists believe that bad events are
their fault, will last a long time, and undermine everything. They feel helpless
and may sink into depression, which is epidemic today, especially among youths.
Optimists, on the other hand, believe that defeat is a temporary setback or a
challenge--it doesn't knock them down. "Pessimism is escapable,"
asserts Seligman, by learning a new set of cognitive skills that will enable you
to take charge, resist depression, and make yourself feel better and accomplish
About two-thirds of this book is a psychological
discussion of pessimism, optimism, learned helplessness (giving up because you
feel unable to change things), explanatory style (how you habitually explain to
yourself why events happen), and depression, and how these affect success,
health, and quality of life. Seligman supports his points with animal research
and human cases. He includes tests for you and your child--whose achievement may
be related more to his or her level of optimism/pessimism than ability. The
final chapters teach the skills of changing from pessimism to optimism, with
worksheet pages to guide you and your child.
While trying to cope with the pain of knowing that their partners have cheated,
victims of infidelity have to wrestle with two big questions: whether to stay in
the relationship and, if they do stay, how to best prevent experiencing this
kind of hurt ever again. In this book, two relationship experts offer a new way
of understanding the causes and types of infidelity and innovative new ways to
"affair-proof" recovered or new relationships.
Wooden's Pyramid of Success by John Wooden.
Dr. Beitner's comments: I often saw John Wooden walking around campus
at UCLA when I was a student there. He always presented an unassuming
appearance; he never appeared to be overly impressed with his accomplishments.
Although he is known for his remarkable basketball coaching expertise, it is my opinion
that much of his success can be attributed to his natural psychological
insights. The principles in his book apply not just to basketball players, but
to anyone who wants to be the best they can be, whether in sports, in their
career or in personal relationships. His approach provides methods of dealing
with problems of self image, self-esteem, motivation and difficult interpersonal
relationships. I recommend this book highly.
APA LifeTools is a special imprint of
American Psychological Association books written to help the general public find
the best psychology can offer. The following books are all APA Life tools.
Is a Choice: A Step-by-Step Process for Resolving Anger and Restoring Hope
By Robert D. Enright, Ph.D.
APA self help book to assist individuals who have been hurt by others and are
enmeshed in anger, depression and resentment. The work focuses on ways to
forgive and reduce anxiety and increase hopefulness. (Hardcover)
The Pain Survival
Guide: How to Reclaim Your Life By Dennis C. Turk, Ph.D. and Fritz
Winter, Ph.D. This book provides a 10-step program to help improve the lives of those
suffering from chronic pain. (Softcover)
Works: Building Skills That Last a Lifetime by Edward R.
Christophersen Ph.D. and Susan L. Mortweet, Ph.D.
This book's aim is to build parenting skills so that children can grow up as
happy and compassionate adults. (Softcover)
Children With ADHD: 10 Lessons That Medicine Cannot Teach Vincent
J. Monastra, Ph.D.
This book gives parents a framework for building a successful parenting program
at home for children with ADHD. (Softcover)
Retire Happy: Finding Your True Path in Life by Nancy K.
This APA book describes how best to make a happy transition from work to
Rewards for Kids!
Ready-to-Use Charts & Activities for Positive Parenting By
Virginia M. Schiller, Ph.D. This book shows parents how to use a variety of child-friendly sticker charts
and other tools to reward kids for good behavior. (Softcover)
With Childhood Cancer: A Practical Guide to Help Families Cope By Leigh A. Woznick and Carol D. Goodheart This APA book, written by a mother-daughter team, provides practical advice to
families with children living with cancer. (Hardcover)
Inside Story on Teen Girls By Alice
Rubenstein, Ed.D. and Karen Zager, Ph.D. Find expert answers to real questions asked by teen girls and their parents.
Breaking the Bonds of Irritable Bowel Syndrome: A Psychological Approach to Regaining Control of Your
Life by Barbara Bradley Bolen Ph.D.
One of the challenges of living with Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS) is coping
with the stress that triggers the illness. In this book, a clinical
psychologist provides a comprehensive overview of IBS, describes its
treatments, and helps readers establish healthy new eating habits. Using
self-monitoring forms and charts, sufferers learn to manage their symptoms,
develop strategies to handle flare-ups, and deal with the anxiety and
depression that often accompany this common disorder.
Happiness Trap: How to Stop Struggling and Start Living
by Russ Harris and Steven Hayes. This book was recommended by a patient who
found it personally very helpful.
for Good: New Solutions for Drinking Problems -- Advice from Those Who Have
Succeeded by Anne M.
Fletcher (Paperback -
April 17, 2002)
Dr. Beitner's comments: This book was recommended by a patient who achieved and
maintained sobriety without using an AA 12-step program. I have not read this
book myself. It is my opinion, and the opinion of most experts in the field
that a 12 step program and total abstinence is the method that is the most
effective for most alcoholics. I do not recommend programs that "teach
alcoholics to drink in moderation."